7 suggestions for Wedding Day bliss

It’s the big day. You may have been planning since you were six-years-old or only since you got the ring, but you want this day to be perfect. The first step in achieving this perfection is to relax. There are a few things you should know about weddings that no one ever thinks to mention:

1. Weddings are notorious for running late. It doesn’t matter that you are the most punctual person on the planet; something will take longer than expected. Be sure to build in plenty of buffer time and then go with the flow. Your hair and make up may take longer than the trial, or the best man may get caught in traffic. This day isn’t about a schedule; it’s about having a great time celebrating your love with those you care about. Don’t feel like you have to rush. Take the time you need to be the beaming beauty rather than the wide-eyed wild woman. Giggle with your friends, have a glass of champagne and enjoy the moments you’ll cherish forever. Remember, they can’t have the wedding without you.

2. Little imperfections of today are the funny stories of tomorrow. If the groom’s zipper breaks and his grandmother has to sew him into his slacks, don’t forget to end the tale with a stop by the convenience store to pick up a pair of scissors. Not everything will go exactly as planned. Your job that day is to smile and laugh and be happy and to let any of these little issues slide right off.

3. Put someone else in charge. Your wedding day should not be filled with lists and instructions. Plan all of the instructions during the week leading up to the wedding and sit back and relax while your little worker bees do their jobs. You are there to have fun and enjoy every minute. Think about hiring a coordinator. If you want to spend the day with your friends and family, you don’t want them fussing about the boutonnieres or that the programs are laid out just right. A coordinator can visit the reception site with last-minute instructions while you and your friends are sharing that glass of bubbly or while your mom is tearfully giving you great grandma’s lace hanky.

4. This is your day, not your best friend’s and not your mom’s.

While your friends and especially your mother want this day to be perfect for you, their idea of perfect may not align exactly with yours. Be sure to communicate with them that this day is about you and your fiancé, and while you truly value their opinion, you have always dreamed of having a blue cake rather than a white one.

5. Be willing to compromise. While this day is about you and your fiancé, don’t feel that you should proclaim yourself Queen. Choose the things that are most important to you. This is your list of things you will not compromise. Everything else is up for negotiation. If your mother insists that you need organ music for your church service but you have always envisioned yourself walking down the aisle to a string quartet, offer up one of your negotiable items in exchange. Occasionally you will have to put your foot down, but if you stand your ground on some items while giving way on others, you will have a much smoother ride through the planning process.

6. It’s a wedding, not a fashion shoot.

That is unless you want it to be. Make sure the vendors you choose understand your goals and are able to provide what you want. If you are looking for mostly candid photographs, you may want to think twice before hiring a photographer with a portfolio full of posed work. Before you start booking people, sit down and think about what is most important. Book those items first.

7. Eat!

You paid for the food, now enjoy it! You may be so busy enjoying your guests that you completely forget to sit down and have a bite. Ensure that someone knows to fix both you and your husband a plate. You may not eat until you reach the hotel, but often caterers will pack you a little picnic which you will definitely appreciate later.

Every wedding is unique, but there is one thing they all have in common. If you end the day married to the one you love, it is a successful day!

Claire Presnall

Rebecca Claire Photography

www.rebeccaclaire.com

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Hot cocoa

I make the best hot cocoa, if I do say so myself.  I use whole milk from a local dairy (non-homogenized) and a packet of of the Land o’ Lakes hot cocoa mix (because I’m lazy).  Put it in a pot over medium and stir away until it gets good and hot.  Doesn’t even need marshmallows (but I put them on top anyway.  I love marshmallows.)

Right now I’m waiting on some hot cider.  That would be Apple Barn unfiltered apple cider plus a splash of peach cider.  Add cinnamon, nutmeg, and some cloves along with a dash of vanilla.  Heat.  I hope it’s tasty.  Our fridge is a side-by-side in a corner (the house came that way and we haven’t redone the kitchen yet), so getting to anything in the freezer is a pain.  That’s where we keep the spices.  So getting to the spices was a trick.  I hate our freezer.  But I’m hoping to love some hot apple cider!

It’s bill paying time.  Can you tell?  I’m thinking of all kinds of fun things to do that don’t include paying bills.  We put up a shelf in my office so I can display my antique camera collection (yes, it’s a requirement as a photographer.  Cliche, I know.)  I have to go pay bills now.  Or I could check on my cider…

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I love the Holy Land

There is this little place on Sutherland called the Holy Land Market.  It’s close to my favorite fresh food market (named Produce Market or something descriptive like that).  They have local free-range eggs, local grain-fed beef, local non-homogenized milk, the best peaches (during the season), a fabulous apple selection among other produce, and are just all around super.  But I digress.  The Holy Land Market has a little deli where they make the absolute best ever curry chicken salad.  Nathan hates chicken salad and he hates curry (I know, I married a freak).  He hates every ingredient but the chicken: mayo, curry powder, raisins, celery, he hates it all.  He LOVES this chicken salad.  It doesn’t stay in our fridge for long.  It’s good heated on bread with some cheese (yum, chicken salad melt.  Especially if you get the bread from the produce market farther down the street, across from the Oriental Market.)  It’s good on bread cold with lettuce and tomato.  It’s good by the spoon (or fork) ful straight out of the bucket.  I think the secret ingredient might be crack.

Do they do more than just highly addictive chicken salad?  Why yes!  There’s the super awesome falafel sandwich.  There’s also the to die for bread pudding (be sure to buy some when they have it, they do run out).  Oh, and these little turnover things with sweet goodness inside and syrup to drizzle over the top.  The hummus is great too.  And the cucumber salad stuff.  I could list every item on the menu (and it’s extensive since they offer Middle Eastern, Italian, and traditional NY deli fare among other things).  

So it’s just a deli?  Nope!  They have other things like a crazy olive selection (I recommend the Moroccan Oil soaked black olives.  MMMM!)  There are several different types of semolina.  There are aisles of yummy sauces and olive oils and treats I’ve never heard of.  The dates are incredible!  Buy the ones at the counter.  They’re huge!  They have feta by the pound and tasty drinks in the cooler.

I know this goes against my “buy local” general rule.  But this is a locally owned deli, and the food is just so good!  I buy locally grown stuff next door at the Produce Market.  Did I mention they have Amish Butter?

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A quick political commentary

I was recently talking politics with a friend of mine (perhaps I need to crack open my new Emily Post book).  Tis the season, and I very much respect my friend’s opinion.  He voiced a concern about the taxation on the wealthy that is used to help those less fortunate.  Here was his example:

Say you have a fishing pole and a bucket and every day you walk the 4 blocks to the lake to catch your day’s meal.  On your way home, you see a man sitting on the street bemoaning his hunger.  You stop and tell him, “Sir, there is a lake just two blocks away.  Go and catch some fish so you can eat.”  The man continues to lament, he does not have a pole or a bucket.  You live only two more blocks away, and offer to not only give him your fishing pole, but to also go home to deposit your fish and return to give him your bucket.  He thanks you profusely, and you feel good about yourself.  You purchase a new bucket and pole that afternoon, and the next day see the same man while walking home from the lake.  He is sitting there with your old pole and bucket still bemoaning his hunger.  You stop to ask him why he hasn’t gone to the lake to catch his own fish, and he exclaims, “It is so far away!”  While you know it is only 2 blocks walk for him, you kindly give him one of the two fish you caught that day.  He thanks you again, but now every day, he expects to have a share of your fish.

Now, that story made me stop and think.  Yes, it’s terrible that we have a country that is apparently full of lazy, unmotivated people who sit around waiting for hand outs.  However, I don’t think that’s the majority of the poor.  I have read numerous articles about the “working poor.”  These are people who work themselves to death and then go bankrupt due to medical expenses because they cannot afford health insurance or preventative care.  They are programmed to eat fast food or microwaved meals that are stuffed full of filler and unnamed chemicals.

Here is another story:

You work very hard at your job making minimum wage in the fishing pole factory owned by Fishing Pole Inc and finally save up to purchase a fishing pole and bucket.  This was incredibly difficult because Fishing Pole Inc. continues to raise the price on poles while making record profits.  The bucket was easy, however.  You simply went to Buckets-R-Us and purchased a bargain bucket made by sweatshop laborers in the Northern Marianas Islands.  They can still say “Made in the U.S.A.” since that’s a territory.  While this isn’t the best made bucket, it’s one you can afford, and you hope it will last.  At least it isn’t made of lead like many of the even cheaper buckets.  During your walk to the lake, you must fight your way past the frozen fish stick sellers who are marketing their “tastes like fish” chemical stick that they are 95% certain won’t give you cancer within the first 3 bites, but they are highly addictive.  You aren’t certain you know how to fish because in school they tossed out all of the fishing books and instead taught you to a mandated test on the best types of fish sticks.

Upon reaching the lake, you wade through dirty diapers and torn garbage bags to reach the shore.  After hours of failed attempts, you manage to catch a scrawny little fish that appears to be only mildly toxic.  The posted signs assure you that Fishing Pole Inc has cleaned up it’s act, and the fish here are safe to eat.  You put the fish in your bucket to walk home, and to bottom immediately falls out.  Buckets-R-Us never promised quality, just quantity, so you can go back tomorrow and buy another bucket.  Hopefully it will last longer.  You carry your fish home in your pocket.

On your way home, you pass a man sitting on the side of the road bemoaning his hunger.  You tell him that there is a lake two blocks away, but you only have one fishing pole and your bucket broke and all you have to show for your day’s effort is this scrawny fish.  He happens to have just received a fishing pole as part of a government plan to help people learn to fish.  Unfortunately, he doesn’t qualify for the fishing manual.  That was considered pork and was cut from the bill.  You tell him that you just spent the day figuring it out, so together you go back to the lake and work to earn your dinner.

You and your new friend return to the lake, and together you clear a space on the shore.  As you show him how to fish, you realize he is a much better fisherman than you, he just needed a little help learning how.  Because you have befriended a good fisherman, you each have a large, healthy looking fish to eat.  You make a pact to return together each day to fish.  It turns out your skill is in finding bait so you promise to find the best grubs and worms for the next day.  As the two of you work together, you learn more and more about fishing.  You are able to catch enough fish that you can now sell your fish for extra money.  You use the extra money to buy a new fishing pole.  You recruit more people to fish.  As they fish, they clean parts of the shore.  People realize they can make better poles and buckets than Fishing Pole Inc or Buckets-R-Us.  A local economy based on the skills of the people in the area begins to blossom.  Word spreads and more towns learn to fish for themselves.  Fish sticks are no longer the preferred food.  Through grassroots efforts, you truly clean the lake and fine Fishing Pole Inc for bad ecological practices.  Buckets-R-Us is brought down by charges of abuse and their sweatshop laborers are offered jobs at living wages.  People are healthier because they eat better and they walk to the lake.

All of this is because one person had some ingenuity and was willing to help his neighbor.

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Georgia & Matt’s Wedding Album

Yesterday, Nathan & I met with Georgia and her mom Carolyn over at Poet’s in Cookeville.  We had a nice conversation over apple cider and mochas about life, home renovation, art and their engagement album.  Georgia and Matt are wonderful clients.  They hired us because they like our style and have completely trusted our opinion each step of the way.  For their wedding album, Georgia’s instructions were, “I want something cool and different and funky.  I want it to be about the pictures and the day, but also about the design.”  Well, that was music to Nathan’s ears.  He took their list of favorites plus the rest of the images in case he needed a series or background shots and just ran with it.  Usually an album design takes about a month, but this one was a 2 month labor of love.  Nathan also went over by 5 spreads.  We agreed that the album needed more pages to properly tell the story, and who are we to confine a story to a set page count!

Georgia & Matt love their album.  Georgia said she shows it to everyone who comes over.  I’m always glad to hear that someone is actively enjoying their wedding pictures.  So often they get put away on a shelf and looked at infrequently.  They love their wedding album so much, they decided to make an engagement portrait album.  See, we got to fly down a day early so that Georgia, Matt, Nathan & I could wander around the Coconut Grove area and take ridiculously cute pictures of this insanely cute couple.  When I finally get around to putting the pictures in here, you may recognize them from my last business card.  Matt is the groom everyone thinks looks like John Mayer.  We had a fabulous time taking pictures that morning and then getting to meet the family that evening at the rehearsal dinner.  This wedding is also the first time Nathan got to wear his favorite wedding outfit (nice black t-shirt from American Apparel and nice black Calvin Klein cargos–purchased on super sale at Filene’s Basement in Atlanta.  I love that place!)  It was just too hot to force him into a dress shirt, and that has become the tradition for summer weddings.

So, without further ado, here is their wedding album design followed by a few shots from their engagement portrait session.  I can’t wait to see where Nathan goes from here (by the way, I highly recommend marrying a designer.  Mine, at least, is always full of fun ideas.)  🙂

A little bit about Georgia & Matt’s wedding.  The venue was incredible!  They had their ceremony and reception at the Mayfair Hotel & Spa in Coconut Grove, FL (near Miami) Neither of them are really beachy people, despite living in Miami, so they were looking to have a garden wedding.  This is completely possible in January in South Florida.  The Mayfair also did the catering, and the food was amazingly delish!

Georgia’s dress was a gauzy sheath by Carolina Herrera. Georgia is a tiny ballerina, so finding a dress in her size was a trick.  She and her mom flew to New York to find it.  She changed into a fun party dress (more conducive to dancing) for the reception.

Marilyn at Hirinis Wayside was their florist.  All of the flowers and decorations were a photographer’s (and album designer’s) dream.

Hot Brass Monkey kept everyone dancing.  Matt is a jazz trumpeter, so the band was very important to him.  He even got up and played a set during the reception.

They also didn’t want the traditional beachy photos that most of the Miami photographers they met specialize in.  So off to find a “garden” photographer, and what better place to find one than in Tennessee.  It didn’t hurt that Georgia’s family lives in Cookeville.  That’s where Rebecca Claire Photography comes in.

You may also notice their cats Thelma & Louise wandering around (and all over the cover which isn’t in this post because I have to go retrieve the file from the archive.  Why must I be so efficient?!  Sigh).  The hotel allowed them to bring the cats and have them stay in their suite.  Thelma & Louis were also the ring bearers (in a little kitty stroller.  I couldn’t imagine convincing two cats to walk all the way down the aisle on their own.  I know ours would be hiding under a bush or getting into some sort of trouble.)

View the rest of the pictures from Georgia & Matt’s wedding.

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Chicago-Friday, the wedding

Friday in Chicago was Grey & Eric’s wedding. It was awesome! Their vows were ridiculously sweet. They are both lawyers, so the two judges they work for officiated. It was at the Nature Museum near Lincoln Park Zoo. We had a blast. Here are some pictures (be warned, there are a lot!).

We had a great time! Nathan bought vintage cuff links for the occasion (ok, so we really just couldn’t find his cuff links, but we got some really cool ones at this place called Spare Parts. Very cool shop!) I’ve uploaded more pics on my website, so to see the rest, go here: http://rebeccaclaire.instaproofs.com/enterEvent.php?id=80209

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Knitting my life away

As you may have read earlier, I finished my first ever scarf/knitting project while we were in Chicago in September.  Turns out, I was mostly done.  I officially sewed in the last thread tonight.  For you non-knitters, when you add another color or finish off a project, you have long threads hanging off the end (or middle) of your piece.  The proper way to deal with these is get a super big needle and weave the ends of the yarn along the edges and within the stitches.  This keeps things from unravelling.  Anyway, I’m all done with that, so yesterday, I stopped by the Yarn Haven (one of the 2 knitting stores I’ve found in town, the other being Loopville).  I wanted to get a tapestry needle so I could do that sewing in thing, and I was looking around for a fingerless glove pattern (and perhaps some yarn to make gloves that would go well with my scarf).  I got the needle, but no glove patterns really caught my eye.  I did my usually perusal of the yarn bins (touching just about everything) and had decided there was nothing I needed to buy until…

It’s hand-dyed cotton.  It’s knobby and a bit tough to work with, but that’s ok.  As you can see, I’m still a little tight in my casting on.  I’m working on it.  This is going to be a scarf for Nathan.  I have other yarn for a scarf for him, but it’s wool, and I prefer cotton (wool makes me itch).  My scarf is 100% bamboo, which is awesome too.

I think I’ll go work on Nathan’s scarf some more.  Or perhaps start on my bookclub book The Sex Lives of Cannibals.  It’s supposed to be quite funny.  Just picked it up today at McKay’s (along with a ridiculous stack of free books and way more non-free books than I had intended.  Isn’t that the way it always is.)

If anyone has a good recommendation for fingerless glove patterns, let me know!  My arms are cold.  🙂  (plus knitting fingers is intimidating.  I just finished my first ever scarf, you know.)

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Fixing Bridge CS3

So, I’ve had Bridge crash on me many times.  It’s just par for the course.  Sometimes it just shuts down.  Sometimes it tells me there’s not enough memory to load thumbnails (whether Bridge is the only thing running or not).  Usually I can just reopen the program, find where I left off, and continue on my merry way.  Usually.  I have now dealt with a more annoying crash twice.  It crashes and shuts down.  I go to reopen and it crashes again.  I suggest we try again in the little dialogue box and get another crash.  I ignore and restart the computer.  Crash again.  Nothing I do seems to fix it.  Well, here’s the repair I’ve found (in case any of you out there have had such an issue).

 

When Bridge corrupts and crashes on opening, go to this file:

Main HD (in my case Valencia HD) =>Users =>Your user account (in my case Claire) =>Library =>Application Support =>Adobe =>Bridge CS3 =>Workspaces

Move or delete the !!Last.workspace file.

 

Now, test Bridge.  Did it open?  Great!  Did it not?  Well, I’m not sure what to tell you other than good luck.  Oh, and please let me know your solution in case this little fix suddenly quits working for me.  🙂  And now I’m off to finish the edit Bridge so rudely interrupted.

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Chicago Pics-Thursday with Lauren

Thursday Lauren was in town.  Our first order of business was to eat.  That took an hour (to pick a place).  We started walking south and kept passing places that didn’t call our names.  We saw “The Blue Peacock” from across the street and wandered in intrigued.  Turns out it was Eritrean which is similar to Ethiopian.  We had rejected several Ethiopian places along the way because Lauren doesn’t care for it and Nathan wasn’t feeling adventurous.  Turns out it was FANTASTIC!  We were so happy we accidentally ended up there.

After lunch, we rode mass transit to Navy Pier (I love mass transit!)  The ferris wheel was more than we were willing to pay, so we played putt-putt instead.  Nathan is famously bad at putt-putt, but I beat him in terribleness!  We’re a perfect pair.  🙂  Then we had to rush up to Skokie to pick up Beth for the rehearsal dinner.  Traffic was terrible (don’t get on the highway!), then we couldn’t find a place to park.  Well, we found a place, but it was really expensive (more than the one we had almost parked in) and the “valet” was really sketchy.  Plus they had a clothes dryer in the garage and that just seemed odd.  So we headed back to the other sketchy place that was $5 cheaper and unattended.

The rehearsal dinner was fun.  Grey & Eric were having a great time.  Lauren got her first taste of ice cream cake (at least she made it before she hit 30!)  After the party, we decided to stop at a restaurant to use their facilities and grab another drink and snack before heading north for bed.  They had a super loud dj and pretty fun decor.  We each got a little something and then chatted for a while.  When we were ready to go, we couldn’t get our server to look at us.  They were closing up the back tables, so we thought they would kick us out.  But nope.  She thought we were happy where we were.  When we finally got to the car and tried to leave the garage, it rejected our ticket.  You can’t stand on the other side of the gate arm (which is one lane entrance/exit and seems rather unsafe) because it registered that you did not have a car with you.  Luckily there was a little piece of paper taped under the card reader thing with a phone number on it.  We called and the lady on the other end worked some magic to let us out.  FREE PARKING!!  It was a good story.  🙂

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Chicago Pics-Wednesday with Gilly

Boy did we have fun being tourists with Gilly.  We saw the Museum of Modern Art (and got in at the student rate since they were packing up everything on the first floor.  You could still see it, just from behind a rope.  Then we went to the Hancock building to see the view.  Awesome!  The drinks were ridiculously expensive and equally strong.  We wandered about and ate and shopped and ended the day at the show Andrea is working on (thanks for the hookup!)  It’s called Turn of the Century and starts Jeff Daniels.  It was great fun!

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